August 16, 2016

Children of Divorce: Navigating the Anger and Fear

Child Custody, Children of Divorce

Sometimes relationships turn bad. They run their natural course, end amicably, or result in a long-lasting relationship. Often though, they end in divorce. Divorce can be a straightforward process or end up being very complicated. In the event of a complex divorce, children may be treated as pawns or become upset and angry about the situation. The key is to stay calm and try to end the marriage as amicably as possible, but that is not always the case, and that is when you need legal expertise to best serve your needs.

There were over 800,000 divorces in the United States in 2014, so it is important that you have the right level of protection for yourself and your children. A family law attorney that is well versed in the intricacies of a divorce and child custody matters can help guide you in protecting your assets and maintaining a healthy relationship with your children to retain some semblance of a family unit.

Fear and Anxiety

Ending a marriage is innately stressful for each partner as well as any children that might be involved. When parents are constantly bickering over the smallest of issue, children can pick up on that negativity.

Because a child will often be caught in the middle of a conflict, they may act out in different ways. This could be a version or combination of any of the following:

  • Being an “angel” and hoping their good behavior will lead to their parents reconciling;
  • Acting up or being a devil, in order to bring attention to themselves;
  • Demonstrating loyalty to each parent; or
  • Retreating from one or both parents.

This is where counseling can be an important factor in the divorce process. If custody issues arise, there will be an even more delicate situation. The concept of controlled conflict is one way to attempt to alleviate the conflict and demonstrate some kind of compromise.

Custody Issues and Compassionate Family Law Attorneys

Deciding and agreeing on custody of children can be treacherous territory. Contacting an experienced DuPage County family law attorney sensitive to your particular family’s needs is helpful. The attorneys at Mulyk Laho Law, LLC, have the experience needed for complex divorce and custody issues. We can assist you the delicate matter of your divorce and custody issues, whether it be tenuous or straightforward. Our level of commitment to obtain the best results for our clients is paramount. Speak with our law office to arrange an initial complimentary consultation to assess the best way forward for your legal needs.