If you are considering divorce, it can be a painful process to initiate. There are several things to address, from finances to families; from the division of property to determining co-parenting schedules and child support payments. Before turning to divorce, there are some factors to consider that may mean your marriage is worth saving. One is […]
August 26, 2015
Sexless Marriage and Divorce
Lack of sex is one major and very socially acceptable reason for divorce, yet lack of sex — or frequency of it — is a very subjective line to draw. What one couple may call a sexless marriage, another may call very sexually active. So how to draw the line of what is considered a sexless […]
August 7, 2015
Divorce Can Make You a Better Parent
Contrary to sometimes-popular belief, divorce can be good for children. If the marriage is especially explosive, it can be more detrimental to a child’s psyche than the dissolution of the union of his or her parents. When parents who are not in love—or who have an especially volatile relationship—“stay together for the kids,” it can often teach […]
July 27, 2015
Divorce: When the Signs Are There
It is no secret that divorce is difficult. One of the most complicated moments in a divorce is before it even begins: making the decision that you and your spouse should no longer be together, and take the next step of your lives separately. Deciding to actually go to a divorce attorney and initiate the proceedings can […]
July 6, 2015
Post-Divorce Finances: The Basics
If you are going through a divorce, figuring out your financial future can be one of the most daunting prospects of the entire ordeal. Knowing exactly what you are dealing with can help to ensure that you are not left without options after your finances are separate. This can be especially important if you were not […]
June 25, 2015
Mediation Can Help the Divorce Process
Depending on how well you and your spouse get along, mediation could be a better option than a traditional divorce. Mediation is the process in which a couple that is separating works with a professional to come to an agreement on all aspects of the divorce, rather than in the court system. This makes the process more […]
June 15, 2015
Surviving a High-Conflict Divorce
Divorce is difficult. However, a high-conflict divorcecan be even more strenuous. According to Dr. Kathy J. Marshack, a licensed psychologist and family/business coach, a high conflict divorce is any marital dissolution in which a separating couple cannot resolve differences in a rational or businesslike manner. Instead, a couple creates a costly and time-consuming war in or out […]
June 8, 2015
Calling it Quits: How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Divorce
If you believe your marriage is coming to an end, telling your spouse that you want a divorce can be extremely difficult. Despite several years of fighting or failing to get along, the desire to divorce may come as a surprise to your spouse. Knowing how your spouse feels and the way in which you approach the topic […]
June 1, 2015
Financial Infidelity Can Ruin a Marriage
In recent years, much has been said and written about emotional infidelity. An emotional affair is a relationship, not necessarily physical, that is considered cheating due to the level of intimacy shared with a non-significant other. However, there is another, less intimate, form of infidelity—financial. Financial infidelity is any type of behavior in which one spouse […]
May 25, 2015
A Sexless Marriage is Grounds for Divorce
A healthy sexual relationship is an extremely important part of a healthy marriage. In fact, WebMD reports that an active sex life can stimulate feelings of emotional and physical security, translating to increased confidence levels and achievement levels throughout several aspects of one’s life. Sex and Marriage Statistics According to the National Opinion Research Center, the average American couple […]
May 4, 2015
Keeping a Vacation Home during Divorce
Dividing assets during a divorce can be one of the most complicated, and certainly most contentious, procedures of the entire process. One frequently asked questions that divorce attorneys face is how a client may be able to keep a house. While couples may decide that selling the marital home is best—for emotional reasons as well […]
April 2, 2015
Lifestyle Clauses in Prenuptial Agreements
Getting a prenuptial agreement can seem like it is not necessary if you and your soon-to-be spouse do not have large numbers of assets or wealth. Prenups, however, are important for everyone—and the growing trend of so-called lifestyle clauses in the agreement are making them even more relevant. Lifestyle clauses in prenups delineate what will occur financially […]
March 30, 2015
Financial Behavior Can Be an Indicator of Divorce
According to Time, certain spousal behaviors indicate that a marriage may be headed for divorce. What some spouses may see as thoughtful behavior—showering a spouse in gifts and vacations, or fixing up a large house with the intention of moving to a smaller one—could actually be signs that the other spouse is ready to split. Changes in […]
March 23, 2015
A Relationship with Your Child’s Stepparent after Divorce
When going through a divorce, maintaining a healthy, congenial relationship can be greatly beneficial for all parties involved, especially for your children. This is particularly true if you decide to remarry, and a stepparent is introduced into your family. And although it may not be easy, it may prove beneficial in the long run. One Huffington Post […]
February 23, 2015
Reasons for Divorce and How to Make it Easier
Divorce is never easy, especially if you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse have children. Moreover, there are several countless and valid reasons for seeking a divorce. One of these reasons is abuse, and this abuse can be emotional or physical. Additionally, infidelity, habitual lying, and risky behavior such as drug addiction, compulsive gambling, or violence that endangers you or […]
January 29, 2015
Divorce and Remarriage in the New Year
It is that time of year again … for divorce. Known as “divorce month,” January sees a surge in divorce filings. Additionally, the first working Monday of the New Year has been dubbed the most popular day of the year to begin divorce proceedings. In an article on Yahoo! News, James McLaren, president of the American Academy […]
January 16, 2015
Tips for Telling Your Spouse You Want a Divorce
Initiating a divorce can be extremely difficult and emotional. However, once all other options have been explored and you are ready to begin the process, it is important to seek legal counsel. Working with an experienced professional from the onset of the process can help to save time and money, and it can also provide you with a […]
December 22, 2014
Cheating More Common during Holidays
Though attitudes about infidelity are slowly changing, extramarital affairs are still a major reason why nearly half of all American marriages end in divorce. The holiday season may just be the most common time to have an affair. According to The Huffington Post, data from the mobile dating app Clover revealed that more people, who are already […]
December 8, 2014
Tips for Divorce during the Holidays
Divorce is difficult. The holidays are difficult. And when the two coincide, it can be one of the most agonizing times in a person’s life. Even if a marriage has been going downhill for some time, this can be particularly hard to remember during the holiday season when stereotypes of intact families and joyous partnerships […]
December 1, 2014
Obtaining a Mortgage after Divorce
Moving on after divorce can sometimes mean exactly that: moving. Changing homes can be both emotionally draining and time-consuming. Additionally, in a worst-case scenario, the person who is forced to leave the marital home is not the one who wanted the divorce in the first place. Unfortunately, for many, it does not get easier. According to an […]
November 11, 2014
When Mediation Works in Illinois
Ending a marriage is consistently rated as one of the most stressful life events that a person can go through. According to the American Institute of Stress’s Holmes-Rahe Life Stress Inventory, divorce is the second most stressful event a person can endure, second only to the death of a spouse. Marital separation from one’s mate is […]
October 20, 2014
Staying in a Bad Marriage is More Damaging than Divorce
Going through a divorce is overwhelming. For some, life may seem like it is spiraling out of control. However, many unhappy marriages can be healed through therapy, couples counseling, or good old-fashioned hard work. In fact, according to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy(AAMFT), more than 50,000 family therapists and marriage counselors are working in the […]
October 13, 2014
Defining Parental Alienation after Divorce
With technology infiltrating every aspect of modern society and a tendency for people to choose screens over traditional interaction, the idea of social alienation is one oft-discussed by sociologists and psychologist alike. Yet one of the oldest—and arguably most effecting—types of alienation is one perpetuated not by societal trends, but the oldest relationship in history: […]
October 6, 2014
Pet Custody Battles during Divorce
One of many complications of the divorce process is often overlooked—who gets the pets? For couples, especially those without children, determining who gets to keep the family dog or cat can be as difficult and emotional as a traditional custody battle. However, according to an article posted by The Huffington Post, in standard divorce law, pets are not […]
September 18, 2014
Are Courts Taking Away the Rights of Divorced Parents?
Divorced parents may be losing their rights, at least according to a recent opinion piece in The New York Times. Divorced parents can sue each other; however, married parents cannot. When this happens, judges are often left to determine what is best for the children of divorce—including where they will go to school and where they […]
September 10, 2014
Back-to-School Co-Parenting
If you are a parent, back-to-school time can be one of the most stressful and busiest of the year. There are new clothes to buy, supplies to shop for, schedules to sort, and busy student days to work into your workday. This can be all the more complicated if you are divorced and have decided […]
September 4, 2014
Advice for Co-Parenting after Divorce
Divorce is never easy. But sharing parenting duties after marital dissolution may be an even more difficult than the divorce itself. Not only does co-parenting after divorce force you to remain on good enough terms with your ex-spouse and successfully navigate shared schedules, duties, and responsibilities, it also means that you will likely have to see your ex-spouse […]
August 20, 2014
Parental Gatekeeping and Custody Battles
Parental gatekeeping is a term used by divorceprofessionals and those going through marital dissolution and refers to protracted or restricted custody battles in which one parent keeps the children from the other. According to The Huffington Post, parental gatekeeping is the act of “facilitating or restricting the relationship with a parent and a child.” Limitations can be placed on […]
July 28, 2014
The Basics of Post-Decree Modifications
After a divorce is finalized, some may feel stilted or left out in the cold. This could be the case when one party in the divorce is awarded an exorbitant or seemingly unfair settlement given the circumstances of the divorce. For example, if the wife is caught cheating and then all marital property is equally distributed—even though the […]
July 9, 2014
Resentment in Marriage Can Lead to Divorce
Resentment, regret, and guilt are three of the most powerful negative emotions a person can feel. None are desired in a healthy marriage, yet there are times when one or all three exist. Resentment in a marriagecan occur for a myriad of reasons, least of which is due to a specific action or infraction on the […]
July 3, 2014
The Benefits of Divorce for Children
Couples considering divorce may opt to stay together for a myriad of reasons. And one of the most common reasons is children. While there are several psychological studies that point to divorce and the lasting negative effects it can have on children, recent research points to the fact that oftentimes parents who stay in a bad marriage do […]
