June 20, 2016

Behavior During Divorce


It can be hard to take the higher road when you are having an argument with your spouse — and this can be even more so the case if you are going through divorce. No matter how nasty or amicable the divorce seems to be, if you are dissolving your marriage, emotions are bound to be at an all-time high — and that can be the case even if you both agreed to the divorce in the first place. If either partner in the marriage did not want divorce, or was blindsided by his or her spouse’s initiation of proceedings, it can be particularly difficult to take the high road and not to engage in behavior that is generally destructive and oftentimes illegal.

There are specific types of behavior that are incredibly important to avoid if you are contemplating or going through divorce, no matter how much will power it may take. Giving in to bad behavior not only runs the risk of resulting in legal action, but it can also result in significantly less favorable divorce proceedings and eventual ruling.

One major factor to bear in mind if you are going through a divorce is that you will be held responsible for all of your actions — no matter how emotionally distraught you were at the time of occurrence. That is, you cannot pretend you were uninitiated or uniformed about the illegality of something that you knew was illegal or inappropriate. This includes behavior that is not necessarily illegal, but carried out in public. Refrain from engaging in public displays of crying, nudity, profanity, drunkenness, etc. Being charged with public intoxication is not a solid foundation upon which to build your new life — and can actually have negative effects on the divorce proceeding itself.

It is not just behavior that is carried out in public that should be carefully monitored if you are going through divorce. Resist the urge to go on a shopping spree, for example, the way you might have engaged in so-called reckless “retail therapy” as a young person. Recklessly spending your solo (or joint) money will only result in less financial stability as you grapple with significant legal fees, moving expenses, and security deposits.

If you or someone you know is considering divorce, it can be a difficult and scary time. The most important step is to seek legal counsel right away to have someone on your side — do not go through it alone. Contact an experienced DuPage County family law attorney today.