September 10, 2014

Back-to-School Co-Parenting

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If you are a parent, back-to-school time can be one of the most stressful and busiest of the year. There are new clothes to buy, supplies to shop for, schedules to sort, and busy student days to work into your workday. This can be all the more complicated if you are divorced and have decided to co-parent with your ex-spouse. Not only can this be emotionally challenging for recently divorced couples—requiring them to spend time together and effectively communicate when it comes to scheduling—it can also be time-consuming. However, an article in The Huffington Post notes several steps you can take to help alleviate the difficulty of co-parenting during stressful back to school time.

The first step to make co-parenting easier at the beginning of the school is to meet your child’s teacher right away. Meeting your child’s teacher and informing him or her about your custody arrangement can help alleviate complications and confusion both for the teacher and your child throughout the school year. Alerting the teacher about your child’s emotional status can help to build a positive relationship with both the teacher and your child. It will also help to keep the lines of communication open between the school and both parents.

Keeping your child in the center—not the middle—of your divorce arrangement is another easy and important factor to consider to help alleviate co-parenting back to school stress. “Talk about school routines, clarify procedures and expectations,” advises The Huffington Post. Keeping a calendar in a prominent location in your home can help both your child and yourself be aware of activities and also time spent with both parents. Refraining from complaining about your ex to your child will help to keep your child from feeling anxious or conflicted. This can help your child perform better in school, which in turn will help alleviate stress that arises from co-parenting.

Custody and visitation arrangements are likely outlined in your divorce agreement, but the agreement can also include logistical issues that arise from co-parenting, such as a school pick-up schedule. Planning to have duplicates of certain items (such as sports uniforms) can help to alleviate complicated arrangements as well, according to The Huffington Post.

If you or someone you know is considering divorce and has questions about co-parenting or any other aspect of the divorce process, the most important step is to seek the counsel of a qualified lawyer. Contact an DuPage County divorce attorney today.