March 23, 2015

A Relationship with Your Child’s Stepparent after Divorce

Children of Divorce, Illinois divorce lawyer

When going through a divorce, maintaining a healthy, congenial relationship can be greatly beneficial for all parties involved, especially for your children. This is particularly true if you decide to remarry, and a stepparent is introduced into your family. And although it may not be easy, it may prove beneficial in the long run.

One Huffington Post writer notes how cultivating a relationship with her ex-husband’s new wife made all the difference in the world for her family. She and her ex even went as far as to wear their wedding rings on their right hands, to show their children that although the marriage was over, neither parent was “divorcing from the family.”

Additionally, setting up a joint parenting agreement that involves your ex’s new spouse can be helpful, not just for the kids but for your schedule too. However, adjusting to having a new person in your child’s life can be difficult and emotionally draining, and it may take time and hard work.

Another Huffington Post writer, who was a child of divorce, advises parents that while you are not required to be in love forever with the person whom you marry or with whom you share children, you do have to let the love for the child dictate the boundaries of your new relationship. Involve your children in as many decisions as you can can help to ease their qualms, and help to reverse or avoid lasting negative effects.

If you are considering divorce and have children, the most important step is to seek the counsel of a compassionate family law attorney. You do not have to go through it alone. Our experienced Glen Ellyn divorce lawyers will listen to your concerns and guide you through the process, always looking out for your best interests and the best interests of your children. Call us today at 630-852-1100.