If you are considering divorce, it can be a painful process to initiate. There are several things to address, from finances to families; from the division of property to determining co-parenting schedules and child support payments.
Before turning to divorce, there are some factors to consider that may mean your marriage is worth saving. One is whether or not you are overly conflicted about leaving. If you cannot sleep at night, for example, because you are doubting whether or not this is the correct decision, it may be a sign that you are not ready or should not begin the proceeding. If you are both willing to put in the work to make the marriage functional again, this is another sign that divorce may not be the best option. Very often, marriages fail because neither person in the relationship is willing to put in the time and effort it takes to keep a marriage healthy.
There is also the consideration of your specific marriage problems — if the problems are not necessarily specific to the marriage itself (are instead issues of boredom or the idea that there must be “something else out there”) it may be a sign that the real work needs to be done internally — no relationship stays in the honeymoon stage forever.
If, however, none of these issues are what is driving you to consider and act on divorce proceedings, and instead are issues that are specific to your marriage and most likely irreconcilable, it is imperative to speak with a legal professional. Working with a divorce attorney can ensure not only that all your needs are being met, financially and materially, but can also serve as an important buffer in particularly nasty divorces so that the couple can continue to work together if need be post-divorce. That is, if the couple needs to determine a co-parenting schedule, or maintain a family business — working with a divorce attorney will lead to a more equitable and charitable divorce proceeding. This can lead directly to an easier time moving forward with your relationship, whatever it may be, after the divorce has been finalized.
When you are ready for divorce, there are more reasons that just the aforementioned common ones that hiring a divorce attorney is crucial — one being that a lawyer simply understands marital court better than a civilian, and can suggest options you may not even have known existed. A lawyer will likely be able to let you know beforehand what the case will look like, and help you to create a potential settlement so that you can know what you are getting into before you even try. An attorney will also be able to manage and complete all the complicated paperwork that comes with divorce. This can be crucial as this paperwork often plays an important role in the judge’s ultimate decision.
If you or someone you know is considering divorce, the best advice is to seek legal counsel. Contact an experienced DuPage County family law attorney today.