A healthy sexual relationship is an extremely important part of a healthy marriage. In fact, WebMD reports that an active sex life can stimulate feelings of emotional and physical security, translating to increased confidence levels and achievement levels throughout several aspects of one’s life.
Sex and Marriage Statistics
According to the National Opinion Research Center, the average American couple has sex approximately 66 times annually. Yet according to Newsweek and reported by WebMD, approximately 15 to 20 percent of couples have sex less than 10 times every year—the parameters of a “sexless” marriage. For couples living in a sexless marriage, divorce may be an option to consider.
What Causes a Sexless Marriage?
An article in The Huffington Post suggests that failure to have sex with a spouse who wants affection can be considered desertion. The two most common reasons for the cessation of sex are childbirth and affairs. Childbirth, of course, is an understandable reason for sex to slow—it takes quite a physical toll on a woman’s body. Yet sex should not stop entirely after childbirth, even as you determine the new parameters that a child will have on your intimate life.
Spicing up Your Marriage
If you and your spouse have hit a rut, but are not in the market for divorce, it is first recommend that you slowly increase frequency—start by doubling. Next, re-examine your sex life often. Finally, act on your desires as soon as possible. If you wait too long, you will loose motivation. When sex stops entirely, however, it may be time to consider divorce.
None-Agomy: Grounds for Divorce
Illinois is a no-fault divorce state where neither party has to prove that the other was “wrong” for a divorce to be granted. However, “none-agomy” is considered a valid ground for divorce in states in which fault must be found.
Consult with a Experienced Illinois Divorce Attorney
If you or someone you know is living in an unhappy, sexless marriage, you are not without options. Do not go through it alone. Contact an experienced DuPage County family law attorney today for legal guidance.